et Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life

This Connection Conversation centres around the work of Susan David, Ph.D who is a psychologist with the faculty of Harvard Medical School: co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital.  I met Susan at the annual coaching conference several years ago and was taken by how vividly she can describe concepts and share her insights.  Emotional Agility is an example of this gift and I have selected it as a focus for the next several connection conversations.

 Emotional Agility

  • Freedom to Change

    a process that allows you to be in the moment, changing or maintaining your behaviours to live in ways that align with your intentions and values.

  • is not about ignoring difficult emotions and thoughts. it is about holding difficult thoughts and emotions loosely, facing them courageously and compassionately, and then moving past them to make big things happen in your life.

David (2106) describes the process of gaining emotional agility in four essential movements:

Showing Up:

  • face into your thoughts and emotions with curiosity and kindness
  • recognize valid and appropriate emotions vs. distortions
  • work with these emotions to move-on

Stepping Out

  • create an open non-judgmental space
  • detach observation so that transient mental experiences don’t control you
  • consider a chessboard of possible moves vs. one piece with pre-ordained moves

Walking Your Why

  • focus on core values
  • integrate thoughts and feelings with values and long term aspirations
  • consider choice points

Moving On

  •  Tiny tweaks – small deliberate tweaks infused with your values
  • Teeter Totter: balance between complacency and feeling overwhelmed

These essential movements are so rich and will make excellent discussion points to promote reflection and with coaching you will be supported to move to action.

David’s research in this area is extensive. Her goal is to help you

  • become more aware of their emotions
  • learn to accept and make peace  with your emotions
  • not to make you a perfect person who never says the wrong things or never gets wracked by feelings of shame, guilt, anger, anxiety or insecurity.
  • to help you come to terms with difficult emotions,

Please join Mobility for Change to continue the discussion.